The Spaces In Between, the extremes of Midwifery

Midwifery is midwifery, it is a contradiction in and of itself. It is beautiful and ugly, clean and messy, glorious and undignified and everything in between. One minute you feel as if God himself parted the skies and breathed his breath into this tiny, slippery, screeching body, we call a baby and other times you are on your knees begging for him to make himself known, to breathe into this little lifeless body, begging for signs of life. Praying to see a flicker on the ultrasound or praying one more breath with the ambu bag and one more chest compression will be the thing that brings this little thing back to life. Sometimes he says yes, and sometimes, he says no. We cry and we rejoice; I guess that is life, right?

In the realm of midwifery, this dichotomy is not just a poetic abstraction but a daily reality. The liminal space between the extremes of midwifery is a place where life and death, joy and sorrow, intertwine in a delicate dance. It’s a space where midwives navigate the unpredictable journey of childbirth, where every birth is a unique narrative, a story written by the delicate hand of fate. In these moments, midwives find themselves suspended between the euphoria of new life and the heartbreaking silence that accompanies loss.

The midwifery journey is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit, a journey where the sacred and the profane coexist. It’s in this liminal space that midwives become witnesses to the fragility of life and the strength of the human body. It’s a space where they learn to celebrate the victories and mourn the losses, where the emotional rollercoaster is as much a part of the job as the clinical skills and expertise. This delicate balancing act demands a level of emotional intelligence and compassion that extends beyond the realm of textbooks and medical protocols.

As midwives stand at the crossroads between life and death, beauty and messiness, they embody the essence of the human experience. It’s a profession that requires them to confront the paradoxes of existence head-on, to embrace the uncertainty of the liminal space, and to find meaning in the intricate dance between the extremes of midwifery. In the end, it is this very contradiction that makes midwifery a profound and deeply human vocation, where every birth is a revelation, and every loss a poignant reminder of the delicate balance between the two.”

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About Dinesha Lowden

I don’t like writing about myself, perhaps, it is my introverted nature that doesn’t want to be in the spot light, I’d rather be sitting in a corner with a good book, a good friend or curled up watching a show with my little sisters or hanging out with any of my family or my goat. Yes, I have a goat and her name is Roxy. In my world the most important things are Jesus, my family and my friends, all else is secondary. I like letters behind my name and I like it when my brain has to work hard so I keep going to school but, I think, I am all done, maybe? I hold a bachelor’s degree in theology from Life Pacific University (LPU) in San Dimas, Ca. and my master’s in public health from Grand Canyon University (GCU) in Phoenix, AZ and in the fall of 2024, I will be done with midwifery school. I was born in raised in California and then in 2015, I moved to NE Wyoming where I lived for a little over seven years; I loved the wide-open spaces, nature, friendly people, and everything in between. It truly is the wild, wild west! In 2022, I moved to Florida for 6 months to start my midwifery journey at a busy birth center and then I went back home to Wyoming for a year and then moved to Northern KY last year in 2023. When I am not going to school or moving across the united states, I love being in nature, I love the beach, I love traveling and searching for the best coffee shops in the united states (let me know if you have any suggestions).


If you are a community-based midwife in the United States, even if you are in counseling, you likely suffer from complex or singular PTSD or CPTSD. After months or years of stress and trauma and constant need to over decrease adrenaline and cortisol, the adrenal glands become fatigued. This has been called adrenal fatigue....




Midwife. Mentor. Muse. Over 20 year experience in midwifery, traveling the world, proud grandma. Here building a community of incredible humans to help make midwifery mainstream! Welcome home midwives.




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